Do you feel like the results you
create in your life are a reflection of
your worth and value? Do you feel let
down when things don’t turn out as good
as you had intended?
Looking for outside validation of your
worth is a sure way to keep you stuck in
feeling unworthy. When you connect your
value to anything outside of yourself
you set yourself up for disappointment.
The thing is, you ARE worthy and it has
nothing to do with what outer results
you create. And I also have come to see
that your outer results increase
the more that your belief in yourself
and your worth increases.
I have seen that people who don’t feel
worthy to begin with tend to see things
in a distorted way. They rarely
see the success they do create, even in
the face of great success.
And they are so quick to point out what
they didn’t do rather than the success
they have created. It’s just the natural
way because they are driven by an
unconscious unworthiness. And when you
are driven by unworthiness you can’t
help but to look for evidence of it.
I know this all too well myself. This
has been a great challenge for me as
well. I realized that when you
feel unworthy deep down, you set your
expectations and goals almost impossibly
high.
You actually set yourself up for failure
without realizing.
Then even if you create great success,
it’s no comparison to what you wanted.
In one year I had increased my sales by
322%. That’s a massive success! But at
the end of that year I still felt like a
failure because I didn’t make my huge
goal.
Can you see how ridiculous this is?
Do you see how you might be doing this?
You need massive proof of your worth
when you feel unworthy,
that’s why you set your sights so high.
And when you are driven unconsciously
from a place of unworthiness, it is
almost impossible to create those
incredible results you want.
When you feel worthy, you disconnect
from the outer results and celebrate ALL
of your successes, because you see
clearly without a distorted filter.
The one thing the Law of Attraction does
is help you go for the best, to envision
something truly amazing for yourself,
that really is a major stretch. And this
is a good thing. But you can’t
tie your worth to whether or not it
happens as fast as you’d like or whether
it happens or not.
If you really want big results, you have
to go big, I'm all for that. But don’t
measure your value based on what you
create. Make a choice to see ANY
forward movement as progress that is
worthy of being celebrated.
If you want to break out of this
disappointment and unworthiness dilemma,
you need to reverse the process.
If you want good results, you must
detach from the outer results.
You must see your results as separate
from you. Sure they are a reflection of
you but if you attract limited
results it has more to do with how
you see yourself than your actual worth.
Which brings you to the second step to
shifting this, you must shift your
self-view if you are ever going to
attract anywhere near the results that
you want. Rather than watching for
evidence of whether or not you are
worthy, begin noticing and
collecting evidence of your worth right
now.
One way I did this was to start writing
out self-appreciation in my gratitude
journal. I just made myself list the
things that I appreciated about myself.
And when I looked at myself from this
viewpoint I could finally see clearly...
I HAD created a lot, I did have a lot of
successes worth celebrating, even if I
hadn’t made that impossibly high goal. I
was giving myself what I needed, I was
stepping up for myself and my most
amazing life. I was committed. I was
authentic. And I really HAD created a
lot of what I did want. The evidence
was all around me.
And through this I started seeing my
true value and worth. It was not just
shown in what I created, it was
shown through who I was and how I was
showing up in my life.
Break the connection between your outer
results and your worth. Embrace your
worth NOW, see the good, see the
progress, see what is right. And you
can’t help but to create better results,
because you will finally be coming from
a place of worthiness and you won't need
to validate yourself by results. And
your results can finally soar.
